Pillow Talk 101

by Patty M. on November 13, 2009

According to Dr. Hilda Hutcherson, author of Pleasure: A Woman’s Guide to Getting the Sex You Want, Need, and Deserve, “Sexy talk is a powerful aphrodisiac”.

The language of lust does not come easy to some of us. 86% of women surveyed of more than 3100 agreed that emotional contact –which includes verbal communication-, is essential for sexual satisfaction.

Speaking up helps you get what you want!! To get started, start off slow and practice often. It can be as simple as saying “I really liked when you did this or that”. Read a steamy novel or watch a steamy movie to get ideas or passages to try out.

The more you get comfortable with it, the easier it gets and it will help spice up your routine and can make sex more gratifying. Speaking up is the easiest way to ensure your own satisfaction and bring you closer to your partner.

Self Magazine May 2008

Pillow Talk101 by Jenna McCarthy

Here is a Script to help you get started!!

 Relax and Have Fun with it!! 

(Term of Endearment), would you do me a favor? It may sound a little (adjective), but rather than calling me (Your Name), would you mind calling me (Name of your SEXY alter Ego)?  It’s just that when I hear you say that, it makes me feel all tingly right on my (Body Part).  Hmmm, now, what shall I call you? How about

(sexy name for your honey) or (sexier name for your honey)?  No, No, No, I know!! I’m going to call you (Naughty word that would shock your mother if she heard it come out of your mouth)!! Please, (decided upon name), will you help me get out of this (article of clothing)?  Hurry!! If you don’t undress me quickly, I think I might (Verb that in some way implies unrest)!!!

Thank you. Now I want you to very (adverb that ends in –ly), put your hands on my (highly sensitive area), and kiss me on my (erogenous zone).  If you want to, I will even let you (Sex move you probably tried in College).

Good. Now, once you feel ready, I want you to take me to (location). Then, turn the lights (on/off), take off your (article of clothing) and I will tell you some other (Sexy Adjective), things I’ve been thinking of doing with you when we’re alone. 

Pillow Talk 101/Self Magazine May 2008

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Beyond Intercourse

by Patty M. on November 13, 2009

Sex in America today is more than just penis in the vagina. People do a lot more other things.

According to BreastCancer.org, up to 25% of couples between the ages of 30 and 60 regularly engage in Oral Sex. I think that number is too low based on my client’s responses.

Masturbation, just the word alone, can make some “cringe”. According to the authors of “Sex in America”, Masturbation is a practice that few discuss, that’s condemned by many, and that makes some of us feel guilty—but many if not most people masturbate. “Masturbation is a normal form of sexual activity and release. It helps provide a form of exercise and conditioning for the vagina” per Marisa Weiss, MD.

Massage is a wonderful relaxant and an aphrodisiac. If your sexual response is sluggish, this could help “warm “you up. Most people are on their feet all day. A foot rub can be very sensual, as well as a back rub.

Exercise has been shown to have a positive effect on a person’s sex life. It helps to stimulate the production of endorphins which contributes to a sense of well-being.Kegel exercises are an excellent way to strengthen your pubococcygeal (“PC”) muscle to aid in better bladder control and stronger orgasms.

Communication is key to what you want. Sex can be more than an “in and out” event. I encourage you to explore yourself.                                                                                                   

Beyond Intercourse/BreastCancer.Org

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Applying Directions For Sexual Enhancers

November 13, 2009

Basic Instinct:  Place a small drop on wrists, inside the elbow crease, behind ears, knees and ankles!  You can also wear your favorite perfume with your Basic Instinct! Unisex.
Between the Sheets:  Shake well and spray in short blasts.  If there is a “Wet Spot” on the sheets wipe up the gift and then lightly spray [...]

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How To Treat Your Vibrator With Love

November 13, 2009

Dil Do’s & Dil Don’ts
Always remove batteries before each cleaning and before storing
Never mix old batteries or use “worn out” batteries in your new toys. This can cause severe damage to your toy’s motor!!
Never submerge your toy totally under water (unless it’s waterproof).After using waterproof accessories, pull out the batteries and let the battery compartment [...]

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Top Ten Reasons Sex is Good for You!!

November 13, 2009

Sex is a beauty treatment. Scientific tests find that when women make love they produce increased amounts of estrogen, which makes hair shine and skin smooth.
Gentle, relaxed love-making reduces your chances of suffering dermatitis, skin rashes and blemishes. The sweat produced cleanses the pores and makes your skin glow.
Love-making can burn up those calories you [...]

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Kegel Exercises

November 13, 2009

What are Kegel exercises?
Kegel exercises are exercises used to strengthen the pubococcygeus muscle (often called the “PC muscle” or referred to as part of the “pelvic floor muscles”). These muscles support the urethra, bladder, uterus and rectum.
How are Kegel exercises helpful?
Strengthening one’s pelvic floor muscles may help to prevent or improve urinary incontinence, increase the [...]

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Techniques for Improving Ejaculatory Control

November 13, 2009

Many men (and their partners) are interested in learning about techniques to improve men’s ejaculatory control. Although these techniques are often used in sex therapy for men who experience premature ejaculation (sometimes called “rapid” or “involuntary” ejaculation), any man can make use of these techniques.
Before a man practices either technique, it is important for him [...]

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